Don't bother shaving your legs with Occam's Razor if you know what I mean, ladies.7.He likes you and that makes him feel all weird inside.My most recent posting elicited more than a few comments, many of them predictably harshly critical of me for dating so much and being "committed to being uncommitted." I've learned some things during my over 50 dating years, and hope some of those lessons are of help to people my age -- men AND women (and yes, next column will be advice for women, as foolish as that may seem to some readers coming from such an uncommitted cad as I). I got divorced 20 years ago and after a three-year, three-state child custody battle that cost more -- financially and emotionally -- than one can imagine, I got sole custody of my then 11- and 8-year-old children. I was busy raising these fabulous kids (the best thing I've ever done) and laser-focused on that and only that. I've been married, engaged, and in a few long relationships. After all, the vast majority of men and women on these dating sites had been in long-term marriages. If you're "alone," you must be either a social pariah, (Ted Kaczynski, the Unabomber), or terribly, terribly pathetic and sad and unable to maintain a relationship.
Until he is confident about it, he's going to hang back.I know what it's like to raise kids alone, I know that these women have sacrificed professional lives and friendships and social and financial benefits others have enjoyed. But researcher Gina Ogden, in conducting her famed Isis study (a national survey of sexuality and spirituality), found that women in their 60s and 70s were having the best sex of their lives -- people need to understand that the brain is the most important sex organ in the body! A little background on why I've gone on so many dates might help. But why is a long relationship automatically worthy of admiration? We used to aspire to and admire people who spent decades at one company until we realized that such a career might signal stagnancy more than achievement, and that such loyalty was rarely rewarded by their employers.
I soon got engaged and lived with a woman for a year. And yes, I discovered along the way that I love meeting new people, I love hearing life stories, I love women (I knew that before turning 50).
This could take To quote Bruce Lee, "If you don't ask, the answer is always 'no.'" But also, if you don't ask, you can never look like an idiot.3. You are great friends, and he's worried that standing on your lawn holding up a boom box playing "In Your Eyes" could totally ruin everything you have going.4. He likes you a bunch, but there's a river of melancholy running just below the surface, the current sweeping all his attention to the ocean of sadness that is his heart. He knows you like him, but he's still feeling you out. Things seem like they're going well and then he disappears for a few days.